When the oldest’s daughter Ashley met Jimmie

When Jimmie Captain first laid eyes on Ashley Turner at his mother’s retirement party, a nearly inaudible “Damn, she’s gorgeous” escaped from her lips.

Captain’s mother, a former Houston Police Department sergeant, smiled knowingly at her son. “She overheard,” he recalls with a laugh. “You know how moms are.”

Months passed, and he kept thinking about the beautiful woman he spotted across the room. After mustering enough courage, Captain eventually sent Turner a message on Instagram to thank her for attending the party.

“I never really expected anything out of it,” he says. “My first thought was, ‘This is the oldest’s daughter. She’s not going to respond.’ But I wanted to shoot my shot.”

Not only did Mayor Sylvester Turner’s daughter reply, she shared her digits, too.

They started texting. Every so often, Captain would call her crush so she could hear her voice.

He says he was thinking on the fly. She says they were building a friendship.

Jimmie Captain at The Citadel Houston.

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“It wasn’t this big romantic thing. I knew he liked me, but we took our time to get to know each other,” Turner explains. “My guard had been up. We wanted to make sure it was right, so we pursued each other with the right intentions.”

The more time Captain spent with Turner, the more he realized how down-to-earth she was. Their first date was a drive-in movie, which the two hardly watched — instead, they cracked jokes and laughed the whole time. “She’s this laid-back and funny chick. The feelings grew as much as I tried to fight it,” he says.

Captain had reservations. He describes himself as very private, whereas the object of his affections was very much in the spotlight. “The public eye was never something I’d been exposed to. I stay behind the scenes and was hesitant because of who she is and who her father is.

His ambivalence to attention was a plus in Turner’s eyes. She liked that he’s more introvert than extrovert. They guarded their feelings early on in the courtship.

“We made it more about ourselves at first, because the minute you add other people into the fold, it gets complicated,” she explains. “By the time we made it official, I was very clear — I don’t want to date just to date. Jimmie is very sweet and kind anyway, but it made him move more intentionally.”

They watched hundreds of movies together. Captain says he can recite movie lines like he quotes the Bible. Other times, he would sweep Turner away for quick trips to Galveston Island where the couple would walk the beach or visit Cajun Greek Seafood.

“It’s still one of our favorite things to do,” she shares.

In Houston proper, the duo spent every Sunday trying a different restaurant for brunch. They even made a schedule to stay organized.

It didn’t take long for them to fall in love.

Ashley Turner and Jimmie Captain first met at his mother's retirement party.

Ashley Turner and Jimmie Captain first met at his mother’s retirement party.

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falling in love

“I suspected it halfway through the first year. He’s different,” Turner says. “I couldn’t really put it into words. I had always prayed about the kind of man I wanted to end up with.”

Captain says he couldn’t help himself. “Her smile from her is so intoxicating, it’s hard to pass up. I love that woman.”

They made the relationship official in December 2018. A few months later, Captain met his girlfriend’s father for the first time at RodeoHouston. “It wasn’t too overwhelming, but in my eyes it’s still the greatest,” he recalls. “This is the man who runs the fourth largest city America and here’s little old me coming out of the blue, you know? I’d admired him for so long, knowing his story about him and where he came from. It was a privilege to be in his presence and with his daughter.

Their plans to revisit the rodeo again the following year were dashed by the pandemic. Fortunately, those many months spent at home only strengthened their bond.

“For my personal relationship, COVID was one of the best things that could’ve happened,” Turner says. “It gave us time to pause. There were no more social outings and gave us a moment to spend so much time together. We really were able to solidify what we wanted to do and hone in on our relationship.”

Over a trip to Fredericksburg wineries in October 2020 she looked at him and knew: He’s the one. It was just a matter of when, not if.

Captain felt it, too. By November, he’d begun shopping for a ring as unique as his future bride from him — and, scheduled a very important meeting to ask a certain public servant for permission to marry his daughter from him.

“I have a daughter, so I know how much Ash means to him,” Captain says. “(The mayor) said he would be honored that I’d be his new son-in-law of him. I was so nervous.”

Ashley Turner and Jimmie Captain say I Do at The Citadel Houston.

Ashley Turner and Jimmie Captain say I Do at The Citadel Houston.


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Ashley Turner and Jimmie Captain say I Do at The Citadel Houston.

Ashley Turner and Jimmie Captain say I Do at The Citadel Houston.


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Ashley Turner and Jimmie Captain say I Do at The Citadel Houston. Photo by Aisha Khan with Ama.

Turner and Captain both describe her personality as inquisitive. So the groom threw in some misdirection with his proposal from him. I wanted it to be a surprise.

Will you ‘Marry Us?’

On Jan. 29, her birthday, Captain organized an intimate family dinner with all of Turner’s favorite foods — but didn’t propose. She thought he might pop the question a few weeks later on Valentine’s Day, and she did not suspect a thing when her mom organized a birthday motorcade after the couple volunteered with friends the following day.

Captain’s vehicle was the last in line. “I bought a sign that read, ‘Marry Us’ with pictures of my daughter. My hatchback was open and plush roses covered the trunk of the car.”

It took a few minutes for Turner to register what was happening. Through tears she said, “Yes!”

Then they began their 14-month engagement. “I love planning. It if it was a love language, that would be mine,” the bride shares.

Piecing together a large wedding during a pandemic proved challenging. As usual, the couple found silver linings throughout the process.

“The most fun part is that this is the first project you do together,” Turner says. “I had a very present and active fiance, I have attended every single meeting with me except one. I felt like our wedding truly emulated and looked like both of us because we made decisions together.”

Ashley Turner and Jimmie Captain say I Do at The Citadel Houston.

Ashley Turner and Jimmie Captain say I Do at The Citadel Houston.


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Ashley Turner and Jimmie Captain say I Do at The Citadel Houston.

Ashley Turner and Jimmie Captain say I Do at The Citadel Houston.


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Ashley Turner and Jimmie Captain say “I Do” at The Citadel Houston. Photo by Aisha Khan with Ama.

The bride told her wedding planner she didn’t want her big day to look like a gala.

On March 12, the duo exchanged vows before 424 guests at Citadel Houston. Turner wore a custom gown designed by Julie Ihe of NMA Couture; her groom de ella dressed in an Allen Johnson tuxedo.

“Julie and I would joke about one of the first times I brought Jimmie around. She said, ‘Girl, I’m going to end up making your wedding dress. Just watch,’” Turner says.

When the ceremony doors opened, and Captain saw his bride’s crystal bodice and cascading train, he broke down. This time, she surprised him by reciting vows to his daughter from her, too.

“That was so special, I never saw it coming. I was already in my feelings about her just looking at her, ”the groom says. “It felt like I was in a movie. Everyone partied and I enjoyed every single minute of that. It pretty much signified who we are as a couple: fun-loving and we love people. I wouldn’t take anything back from that — it was perfect.”

amber.elliott

@houstonchronicle.com



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