Patsy Whyte Obituary (2022) – Norwalk, CT

Patsy Whyte
Patsy Lenore Smith Whyte passed away peacefully at her home on Wednesday, April 27th, surrounded by her loving family after suffering a devastating stroke several days prior.
Patsy, or Pat as she was best known, was born on March 16th, 1929 in Norman, Oklahoma to Rachel Berdina Smith and Ernest Buford Smith, Sr. She grew up attending Norman schools and graduated from Norman High School.
Pat met the love of her life, Andrew “Andy” Whyte in 1944 on a blind date. Andy had been set up by a Navy buddy who was attending the Naval Aviation Machinist School with him, and who happened to be dating Pat’s older sister, Jane at the time. He later recalled that he was so nervous, he couldn’t eat, but clearly, the date went well. Shortly after his six months of training in Norman though, he was transferred to the Naval Air Station in Corpus Christi, Texas some 580 miles away. But by then, the die had been cast, and their path in life together was clear. So determined to visit his future bride de ella was he, that Andy would hitchhike to see her as often as he was granted leave. He often lamented that there were times that if he had not made it to a certain point in his quest by a certain time, he would sadly have to turn around and go back to base so he would n’t be AWOL.
But love always wins, and after the war, Pat and Andy attended the University of Oklahoma together and then married on September 2, 1948. After completing their studies in Oklahoma, they moved east to Connecticut where Andy had been born and raised, to work at Sikorsky Aircraft for many years. Pat was employed as an Administrative Assistant there, and Andy was employed as an Engineer.
Pat took a hiatus from employment to raise their two children, Andrea “Anne,” and Scott and enjoyed supporting them in the many extracurricular activities that she and Andy helped provide. Aside from assisting in many of the local school programs, she was a Girl Scout troop leader and Aspetuck GS Camp summer leader for many years. Pat later returned to the workforce and went on to work for Katz Realty in Norwalk, T-Bar in Wilton, and eventually for the Harford Insurance Company in Darien, from which she retired.
Upon retirement, she and Andy enjoyed spending time with each other, their children and grandchildren at their home in Norwalk, and also spent time at their “dream” lake house that they built together in Tolland, MA. Pat had a deep love of all animals and nature, but had a special place in her heart for all her little “four-legged children” (pups) and “grandpuppies” as she called them. Having learned to send photos on the iPhone she had for the last decade, it was not uncommon to receive puppy cameo texts at random times when they had looked extra cute to her.
Of special note, as long as can be remembered, Pat loved being behind the lens of a camera and was proud of the moments she was able to capture. At times, she would arrive at events with two or three cameras hanging off her shoulders to use according to whatever she deemed a particular one would be best for. Over the years, she documented thousands upon thousands of moments in the lives of her family de ella, random kids at her grandchildren’s events and of course, her fur babies de ella. Of note, she became known as the unofficial photographer, but also honorary poet laureate for the American Society of Aviation Artists (ASAA), to which Andy belonged and attended multiple events for each year. Throughout her life, Pat loved writing poetry and song lyrics. And though she never learned to write music, she created melodies in her head and memorized playing them by ear on her piano and organ. She wrote poetry and songs for each of her children and grandchildren, as well as her family members and some dear friends. But most of these, of course, were written for the man she loved and lived for, celebrating 73 years of marriage together this last September.
Pat was preceded by her mother and father, her brother, Ernest Buford Smith, Jr., and her sister, Jane Smith. She is survived by her husband de ella, Andy, their children de ella, Anne Whyte Mallozzi and Andrew Scott Whyte, their spouses, Danny and Andrea, and five grandchildren, Lauren, Lindsay, and Matthew Mallozzi, and Kristen and Katie Whyte.
A service will be held at the First Church of Christ Congregational, 25 Cross Highway, in Redding, CT on May 15th, at 3:00. All are welcome to attend.
Arrangements have been entrusted to Bouton Funeral Home in Georgetown, CT. In lieu of flowers, the family has requested that donations be made to Regional Hospice of Danbury, whose gentle caring support and guidance were invaluable during Pat’s final days.
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Published by The Hour on May 7, 2022.

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